Its Not Your size Its the designers

So I work for a popular retail company thats been around for awhile .With competitor stores like JCpenny,Bloomingdales and macys selling the same vendors we do, the few dollar difference is key. Customers will quickly compare prices and fuss to you as if we're walmart and we're suppose to match the price. Well if price difference wasnt enough complaints from customers now their complaining about the cut. In this case this is a PROBLEM for most designer clothing companies which affects women of all sizes and ages.

Not only do I merchandise and help suggest items for customers but I also give them the women to women honesty talk. Alot of women are stuck on a size number for bottoms and tops and think they are gaining weight if they dont FIT into the merchandise."ITS NOT YOU LADIES ITS THE DESIGNERS". The fashion industry is booming with new designers from across seas who are trying to venture off into the u.s and the u.s are thrilled to get fresh fashion visions. But the down fall to trying these new designers is the cut and fit of the merchandise on us americans who are definitely cut different.
Its sort of sad to watch old ways be stormed by new ways because somethings are better left alone. Clothes are more then just fabric to women its a mood changer/confidence builder.For most women they have favorites and not so favorite designers because its all about how the clothing compliments her shape. But what happens when the new trend is telling you your not thin enough and your the average size of most American women starting at a size 6. Now there trying to say a size 6 is plus size and honestly most kids are bigger then a 6 now so imagine how an adult feels. Ladies its not the end of the world your not the problem you can take a breather.
Instead of beating yourself up and starving yourself shop around and always pick up 2 sizes because most likely your in between sizes. Get a feel for how the clothes run and if your wallet is comfortable spending that amount.Dont let a designer tell you how your suppose to look and be built you dont have to help build there dream line especially when theres so many more designers out there from right here in America who can relate to your body proportion. Although I feel bad for the older women who are comfortable with there size and have the mid section bulge and love handles. They are the original loyal customers who will spend alot of money but hey let that be the designers lost. Shop some where else and wear it well and fell confident again!

sacrifices for the American dream

 Hungry that i am but i make sacrifices to get through the current
trying to maintain uplifted when my energy is heat waving above the ground
Im here to impress no one but myself and I can careless who  is around
latest trends trick many minds and make them forget about responsibilities
Dont have the needs but go for the want and what is all the rave this month
Gosh if only i didnt have responsibilities and im not talking paying a cell bill

grawling goes the tummy but at least i ate twice today there some people out there who cant even get satisfied by the smell of food

I am grateful but Im also a hard worker who shouldnt have to miss meals

I work hard I get double digit pay but I still live check to check
each time i start saving a set back comes and my nerves go on the run
I handle the matter blood sweat and tears and I sleep to wake to the next day

Im not trying to keep up im trying to maintain
for the american dream for my generation seems to turn its nose up at us
I feel like we will never get the chance to live it to the fullest
let alone stand close to it or breathe it

2 to 3 jobs and its not even enough for a nice apartment out the hood
they raising prices of rent but hardly want to change pay
they want us to do illegal hustles just to make way
lock us up for not breaking off towards tax no joke this is fact

they dont want us to earn credit ,I built mines but most dont have
they wonder why we walk around always  looking so mad
we smart live right and was raised to go the right path
but some how I always feel like ill never get passed

this aint a skin thing well then again it may be
I have tons of diffrenet race friends so prejudice is not me
but the american dream is my challenge its the one im mad at
its the one thats laughing at me saying "I cant believe you did that"

but through it all i stay humble and hungry for the piece of the pie
I just want whats best for me and my family
well a least before i die !

Jetz All honesty: The Epidemic of R.I.P for kids bullied Is spreadin...

Jetz All honesty: The Epidemic of R.I.P for kids bullied Is spreadin...: Its becoming a trend withing all ethnicities sad to say to go on mediatakeout.com or worldstarhiphop.com and of course our daily news chann...

The Epidemic of R.I.P for kids bullied Is spreading Like Cancer

Its becoming a trend withing all ethnicities sad to say to go on mediatakeout.com or worldstarhiphop.com and of course our daily news channels, to see another child or teen has commit suicide from bullying. Teen bullying has always known about and that was the main reason for fights going on in school. The victim would finally lash out and defend themselves and even if he or she didn't win the fight at least they stood up for themselves.

I'm only 24 but when i was in high school i seen 2 girls get bullied or more say picked on because one was geeky and the other one talked funny and looked like a grandma. No one ever layed a finger on them just called out there names when they walked by or mimicked them when they would say "leave me alone" or kicked there luggage book bag .The luggage book bag was the new thing at the time but only the smart kids who had a thousand and one classes and books invested in it so they wouldn't hurt there backs any more. Of course i would say things like "why are yall bothering her ,leave her alone." But in school i was popular for being the quiet but cool with mostly everybody , short chick and the bully's whom I was some what social with would say "naw she cool as hell I'm just playing with her". Sometimes I'd ask the girls were they ok and they brush it off with saying "yea I'm just not in the mood they want to play and i don't .I just want to be left alone". Which is definitely understandable because what was a laughing matter for others was an embarrassing moment for them.

Now the grandma looking victim and I go way back to elementary school so we have history and a friendship. I never turned phony on anyone just because we got older that was never my thing. She eventually went through some tough times in her life and stayed back in school and seemed to go downhill. So once she got to high school she was a yr behind me but I never treated her different spoke to her every morning and kept it moving. Deep down inside she a girl who's going through alot and her mom was pretty older then everyone elses mom so she was sheltered from alot. Thankfully she didnt let bullying get to her and she's an adult now and has a man and a little family of her own :) .

As for the geeky victim she was SMART and had a motivated spirit to make a change in school and you just knew she would be someone important when she reached adulthood. She graduated a yr before me i never really knew her but I seen her around . One time we had a pep rally and some lames were sitting behind her bothering her and i was sitting like 3 isles down from them and i felt bad. There were some saying leave her alone and some females laughing saying to the bully's " omg you are so stupid , stop leave her alone you gone make her cry" . I looked at her and wondered why she just didnt get up and move but she just sat there and tears filled her eyes a little and was shouting "leave me alone". I'll admit i got a little teary eyed myself and then the unacceptable happened. The bully's took out a matchbook sparked the sticks and started throwing the lit sticks at her. Me personally , I am terrified of fire between my house catching fire and my mom hair catching on fire I don't like lighters or matchbooks. Anyone who tried to use it around me i kindly ask them to go else where with it ,So far people have respected my wishes .

So as the bully is throwing these lit match sticks I'm looking at people laugh and I can just vision her coat catching on fire and i swear i froze up in fear .She went to go lay down and I'm thinking girl get up and move and at this point this must be her hiding and trying to hold emotions in cry for help. She eventually just popped up and ran out the gym and as tempting as i was to go run after her i just stood there in shocked and couldn't imagine how she felt. Where she is now in 2012 i do not know but I'm sure she's out there doing something amazing behind the scenes of a high tech job. However, with that being said bullying has changed so much through the years that its affecting the younger generation as young as 6yrs old now. How can you teach your child to not let bullying bring them down and send them to school everyday?

These kids feel so alone and left out that they take it upon themselves to take their own life which bothers me because what does a 6yr old know about death really? Death is still a mystery too most adults but here it is every few months a child is experimenting with it. I know that there are all these organizations out there that are open to helping troubled kids but parents sit and act like there child is an angel and nothing is wrong. It makes you wonder are the children walking over their parents at home or is this a cry out from the bully's and they take their problems out on others? Either way its wrong and I think parents need to really look at themselves and get to know who they're raising. The epidemic of R.I.P's for young children is no joke and its spreading like cancer. There use to be a time a parents fear for her child was to fail i school and repeat another grade,get sick , break a bone from playing too much ,hit by a car, shot by a stray bullet,drinking, sex,and getting kidnapped. Now you have to fear your child not feeling safe and valued enough that their committing suicide! The solution is in the parents and parents need to strive to be a better role model and safe haven because if your child cant come to you when he or she needs you the most, then you are not doing your motherly duties!

Social media is forgetting about traditional communication and riding the new wave of publicaly humiliating others

I find it quite amazing how people are falling into the social media communication and ignoring the old tradition "dont talk behind my back say it to my FACE ". Well in this case  of social changes I guess it should be "dont talk about me on your wall for the world to see, say what you have to say to me and stop hiding behin the screen " Facebook is a beautiful thing and a curse at the same time. Its reached more connection and boundaries then myspace which leaves many saying "what is a myspace" . Everyone advertises with facebook and it doesn't  look like it'll be slowing down anytime soon.
           Facebook for me first started off as a problem because females were mad there boyfriends would like or comment on my pictures. Remind you these are people I dont know on the day to day bases and live miles away. Alot of times we link because of music and off of other sites and thats all. Other cases me and they guy have been friends for years ,but the girlfriend is NEW and she wants him to cut all ties with any females she feels intimidated by. But in the end I tell her what it is and the dude can vouche for me that he will not delete me because we are friends and she needs to deal with it. Did the girlfriend like this ? Of course not but seriously what can she do about it. He has his own page to network on  and so does she, the world see's your in a relationship and all your forced pictures. Sad thing is the girlfriends wants to be so controlling that they end up breaking up weeks later anyway lol for the WORLD TO SEE.
          Facebook now is a different network  for me now that I've been on it for awhile. I've found family members I never met and family members who I havent seen in years. Its easier to talk to them all at the same time as oppose to them saying  "call me".The only time I'll address them personally is if there is a major personal problem that isn't meant for others to see or know about. Sometimes when im not online i'll text there phone and say hey and to see what their doing but its never a long convo. Its more like a "hey I was thinking about you for a second wanted to know whats going on with you today " Sometimes less is better but it lets them see that randomly they crossed your mind and that they were thought about. This would be the beautiful side of facebook in my eyes.
        The bad side would definitely be when people put on a show and all there business out to get feedback from others and get upset if the feedback isnt what they want to hear. Yes im guilty to venting on Fb from time to time but I dont get to personal and say names.It's more like a speaking out loud moment, a public view maybe leaning to a what should I do. Which isn't to bad because before this site came along yahoo had a ask question forum and people would give their feedback. The issue at hand with fb is when you literally are throwing someone under the bus ,publicaly humiliating them because you have access to do it. This curse has broken up family relationships,kiddy relationships for the kids, and marriages. Communication is and always be key point blank period. But it's the way you go about it and right now  in the social world everyone wants to feel known or famous. So they forget about tradition and go with the new wave and publicaly downgrade themselves,friends and lovers. Some people have gotten killed over social media hypeness but thats not enough to make people stop and think about how they network. WHY?? because they honestly think it'll never happen to them and this person aint stupid enough to address me when really YOUR NOT BOLD ENOUGH TO ADDRESS THEM EITHER SINCE YOUR HIDING BEHIND A KEYBOARD.

Work hard or Dont work hard and still have a life?

So your known as the sweet quet girl at work. Everyone knows you they compliment you on your work, they question you on why your working with them and why arent you working somewhere else ? Is this a good thing or bad thing ,is it a hidden push for you to get out of there before its too late and go do something greater with your life? Alot of times companies have there employees who just complain and complain but never go anywhere. You say to yourself" This job is all hype I bust my behind and the pay isnt even worth it , but its a job". I speak from experience and i can relate .
       Ive been working in the retail business since 2005 and quickly got thrown into the management side. The pay was great but my heart wasnt into it and it felt funny managing older women and girls my age whom i was working with before i moved up as just a sales associate. At first they didnt take me serious because I was young but then they saw my potential and stop giving me a hardtime and started doing there part to help the business. I found myself falling in love with merchandising and thats where my heart is. I didnt have to deal with receipt paperwork, customers complaining , I just had a picture in mind and i captivated it when ever i did a wall or floor set. The best part was watching my art fly off the shelf and making the company sales number go up.Through out the years i tried to stick with merchandising but had to start from the bottom going back to being a sales associate and my pockets are HURTING BAD. Its 2011 and i work as a stock/merchandiser for a billion dollar comopany with high price merchandise a shirt is more then my weekly check!! Do you think im balling because the company is ?? NO WAY NOT AT ALL NOT EVEN CLOSE!
I been trying to stick it out with this job because i want to show long term commitment and help build my resume for merchandising. But each time i look at my check and when i see my co workers who complain i get scared that'll Ill become too comfortable just like them and never leave. I complain now oh yes without a doubt but i also bust my behind and im still driven .Im on a mission but my pockets arent feeling this hurt. Am i wasting my time trying to build my resume when I and everyone else knows that i should take my hard working skills somewhere else? Alot of people bust their behind EVERYDAY but struggle  very hard when they have to face the reality outside of work. Some people will tell you " I make alot of money to do nothing and I love it." so if they balling like that i can say " I love my job I work very hard to make Little pay and that part I hate".It saddens me that some people are living life to the fullest and have family to throw money at them and never work. While others work hard and try to make ends meet while those who can careless about their job reap all the benifits in a FAT CHECK. Something is definitely wrong with this picture.

Is it safe 2 say african american women skin is prone 2 stretchmarks?

In a society where looks is everything proper skin care is a must. But what is proper skin care and how do you go about it? Magazines talk about everything a women she know or do reaching out to all ethnicities, but each ethnicity is different and everyone shouldn try just anything old thing. When it comes to skin care i think it goes by your family line and what you eat or do . Moisturizing is def a key for every thing but no one seems to be able to explain stretchmarks. They say if you gain weight to fast or lose weight to fast or if its hereditary then boom theres your answer. But i know someone who has been small her whole life and bounces between a 5 pound difference and has had stretchmarks since she was a little girl,practically all over. She so tiny and has always been but she is scared for life with strecthmarks and have no kids. To me she physically hasnt changed much I feel her pain and how uncomfortable she is in her own skin and everyone should be comfotable in their own skin right?

Based off of my observations ive seen stretcmarks on african american women more then i have on any other race. Its the cleavage area, sides,hips,thighs inner and out,buttocks and calves. When i see caucasians i more so see spider veins and vericose veins. Even if they are heavy set their skin still show no signs of stretchmarks which makes me wonder ," Is our skin more prone to stretchmarks automatically"? I mean everything about african americans seem to be so different and sensitive. Our skin blemishes and scar up off of anything, the hair HAS to stay moisturized or it goes brittle and is badly damaged, and what everyother saying is out there assuring african american skin is sensitive. Im pretty sure a good amount of women of every race go throug there skin issues , im just saying based off of what i see I think african americans are prone to it. what do you think? If your african american and you want to let us know you skin care regimen hook us up and teach us something we may have been missing . At the end of the day the body is our temple and we must treat it like gold but i also know alot of us neglect our body so lets help one another get on the right track to feel beautiful and comfortable in the skin we're in.