Jetz All honesty: The Epidemic of R.I.P for kids bullied Is spreadin...

Jetz All honesty: The Epidemic of R.I.P for kids bullied Is spreadin...: Its becoming a trend withing all ethnicities sad to say to go on mediatakeout.com or worldstarhiphop.com and of course our daily news chann...

The Epidemic of R.I.P for kids bullied Is spreading Like Cancer

Its becoming a trend withing all ethnicities sad to say to go on mediatakeout.com or worldstarhiphop.com and of course our daily news channels, to see another child or teen has commit suicide from bullying. Teen bullying has always known about and that was the main reason for fights going on in school. The victim would finally lash out and defend themselves and even if he or she didn't win the fight at least they stood up for themselves.

I'm only 24 but when i was in high school i seen 2 girls get bullied or more say picked on because one was geeky and the other one talked funny and looked like a grandma. No one ever layed a finger on them just called out there names when they walked by or mimicked them when they would say "leave me alone" or kicked there luggage book bag .The luggage book bag was the new thing at the time but only the smart kids who had a thousand and one classes and books invested in it so they wouldn't hurt there backs any more. Of course i would say things like "why are yall bothering her ,leave her alone." But in school i was popular for being the quiet but cool with mostly everybody , short chick and the bully's whom I was some what social with would say "naw she cool as hell I'm just playing with her". Sometimes I'd ask the girls were they ok and they brush it off with saying "yea I'm just not in the mood they want to play and i don't .I just want to be left alone". Which is definitely understandable because what was a laughing matter for others was an embarrassing moment for them.

Now the grandma looking victim and I go way back to elementary school so we have history and a friendship. I never turned phony on anyone just because we got older that was never my thing. She eventually went through some tough times in her life and stayed back in school and seemed to go downhill. So once she got to high school she was a yr behind me but I never treated her different spoke to her every morning and kept it moving. Deep down inside she a girl who's going through alot and her mom was pretty older then everyone elses mom so she was sheltered from alot. Thankfully she didnt let bullying get to her and she's an adult now and has a man and a little family of her own :) .

As for the geeky victim she was SMART and had a motivated spirit to make a change in school and you just knew she would be someone important when she reached adulthood. She graduated a yr before me i never really knew her but I seen her around . One time we had a pep rally and some lames were sitting behind her bothering her and i was sitting like 3 isles down from them and i felt bad. There were some saying leave her alone and some females laughing saying to the bully's " omg you are so stupid , stop leave her alone you gone make her cry" . I looked at her and wondered why she just didnt get up and move but she just sat there and tears filled her eyes a little and was shouting "leave me alone". I'll admit i got a little teary eyed myself and then the unacceptable happened. The bully's took out a matchbook sparked the sticks and started throwing the lit sticks at her. Me personally , I am terrified of fire between my house catching fire and my mom hair catching on fire I don't like lighters or matchbooks. Anyone who tried to use it around me i kindly ask them to go else where with it ,So far people have respected my wishes .

So as the bully is throwing these lit match sticks I'm looking at people laugh and I can just vision her coat catching on fire and i swear i froze up in fear .She went to go lay down and I'm thinking girl get up and move and at this point this must be her hiding and trying to hold emotions in cry for help. She eventually just popped up and ran out the gym and as tempting as i was to go run after her i just stood there in shocked and couldn't imagine how she felt. Where she is now in 2012 i do not know but I'm sure she's out there doing something amazing behind the scenes of a high tech job. However, with that being said bullying has changed so much through the years that its affecting the younger generation as young as 6yrs old now. How can you teach your child to not let bullying bring them down and send them to school everyday?

These kids feel so alone and left out that they take it upon themselves to take their own life which bothers me because what does a 6yr old know about death really? Death is still a mystery too most adults but here it is every few months a child is experimenting with it. I know that there are all these organizations out there that are open to helping troubled kids but parents sit and act like there child is an angel and nothing is wrong. It makes you wonder are the children walking over their parents at home or is this a cry out from the bully's and they take their problems out on others? Either way its wrong and I think parents need to really look at themselves and get to know who they're raising. The epidemic of R.I.P's for young children is no joke and its spreading like cancer. There use to be a time a parents fear for her child was to fail i school and repeat another grade,get sick , break a bone from playing too much ,hit by a car, shot by a stray bullet,drinking, sex,and getting kidnapped. Now you have to fear your child not feeling safe and valued enough that their committing suicide! The solution is in the parents and parents need to strive to be a better role model and safe haven because if your child cant come to you when he or she needs you the most, then you are not doing your motherly duties!

Social media is forgetting about traditional communication and riding the new wave of publicaly humiliating others

I find it quite amazing how people are falling into the social media communication and ignoring the old tradition "dont talk behind my back say it to my FACE ". Well in this case  of social changes I guess it should be "dont talk about me on your wall for the world to see, say what you have to say to me and stop hiding behin the screen " Facebook is a beautiful thing and a curse at the same time. Its reached more connection and boundaries then myspace which leaves many saying "what is a myspace" . Everyone advertises with facebook and it doesn't  look like it'll be slowing down anytime soon.
           Facebook for me first started off as a problem because females were mad there boyfriends would like or comment on my pictures. Remind you these are people I dont know on the day to day bases and live miles away. Alot of times we link because of music and off of other sites and thats all. Other cases me and they guy have been friends for years ,but the girlfriend is NEW and she wants him to cut all ties with any females she feels intimidated by. But in the end I tell her what it is and the dude can vouche for me that he will not delete me because we are friends and she needs to deal with it. Did the girlfriend like this ? Of course not but seriously what can she do about it. He has his own page to network on  and so does she, the world see's your in a relationship and all your forced pictures. Sad thing is the girlfriends wants to be so controlling that they end up breaking up weeks later anyway lol for the WORLD TO SEE.
          Facebook now is a different network  for me now that I've been on it for awhile. I've found family members I never met and family members who I havent seen in years. Its easier to talk to them all at the same time as oppose to them saying  "call me".The only time I'll address them personally is if there is a major personal problem that isn't meant for others to see or know about. Sometimes when im not online i'll text there phone and say hey and to see what their doing but its never a long convo. Its more like a "hey I was thinking about you for a second wanted to know whats going on with you today " Sometimes less is better but it lets them see that randomly they crossed your mind and that they were thought about. This would be the beautiful side of facebook in my eyes.
        The bad side would definitely be when people put on a show and all there business out to get feedback from others and get upset if the feedback isnt what they want to hear. Yes im guilty to venting on Fb from time to time but I dont get to personal and say names.It's more like a speaking out loud moment, a public view maybe leaning to a what should I do. Which isn't to bad because before this site came along yahoo had a ask question forum and people would give their feedback. The issue at hand with fb is when you literally are throwing someone under the bus ,publicaly humiliating them because you have access to do it. This curse has broken up family relationships,kiddy relationships for the kids, and marriages. Communication is and always be key point blank period. But it's the way you go about it and right now  in the social world everyone wants to feel known or famous. So they forget about tradition and go with the new wave and publicaly downgrade themselves,friends and lovers. Some people have gotten killed over social media hypeness but thats not enough to make people stop and think about how they network. WHY?? because they honestly think it'll never happen to them and this person aint stupid enough to address me when really YOUR NOT BOLD ENOUGH TO ADDRESS THEM EITHER SINCE YOUR HIDING BEHIND A KEYBOARD.

Work hard or Dont work hard and still have a life?

So your known as the sweet quet girl at work. Everyone knows you they compliment you on your work, they question you on why your working with them and why arent you working somewhere else ? Is this a good thing or bad thing ,is it a hidden push for you to get out of there before its too late and go do something greater with your life? Alot of times companies have there employees who just complain and complain but never go anywhere. You say to yourself" This job is all hype I bust my behind and the pay isnt even worth it , but its a job". I speak from experience and i can relate .
       Ive been working in the retail business since 2005 and quickly got thrown into the management side. The pay was great but my heart wasnt into it and it felt funny managing older women and girls my age whom i was working with before i moved up as just a sales associate. At first they didnt take me serious because I was young but then they saw my potential and stop giving me a hardtime and started doing there part to help the business. I found myself falling in love with merchandising and thats where my heart is. I didnt have to deal with receipt paperwork, customers complaining , I just had a picture in mind and i captivated it when ever i did a wall or floor set. The best part was watching my art fly off the shelf and making the company sales number go up.Through out the years i tried to stick with merchandising but had to start from the bottom going back to being a sales associate and my pockets are HURTING BAD. Its 2011 and i work as a stock/merchandiser for a billion dollar comopany with high price merchandise a shirt is more then my weekly check!! Do you think im balling because the company is ?? NO WAY NOT AT ALL NOT EVEN CLOSE!
I been trying to stick it out with this job because i want to show long term commitment and help build my resume for merchandising. But each time i look at my check and when i see my co workers who complain i get scared that'll Ill become too comfortable just like them and never leave. I complain now oh yes without a doubt but i also bust my behind and im still driven .Im on a mission but my pockets arent feeling this hurt. Am i wasting my time trying to build my resume when I and everyone else knows that i should take my hard working skills somewhere else? Alot of people bust their behind EVERYDAY but struggle  very hard when they have to face the reality outside of work. Some people will tell you " I make alot of money to do nothing and I love it." so if they balling like that i can say " I love my job I work very hard to make Little pay and that part I hate".It saddens me that some people are living life to the fullest and have family to throw money at them and never work. While others work hard and try to make ends meet while those who can careless about their job reap all the benifits in a FAT CHECK. Something is definitely wrong with this picture.

Is it safe 2 say african american women skin is prone 2 stretchmarks?

In a society where looks is everything proper skin care is a must. But what is proper skin care and how do you go about it? Magazines talk about everything a women she know or do reaching out to all ethnicities, but each ethnicity is different and everyone shouldn try just anything old thing. When it comes to skin care i think it goes by your family line and what you eat or do . Moisturizing is def a key for every thing but no one seems to be able to explain stretchmarks. They say if you gain weight to fast or lose weight to fast or if its hereditary then boom theres your answer. But i know someone who has been small her whole life and bounces between a 5 pound difference and has had stretchmarks since she was a little girl,practically all over. She so tiny and has always been but she is scared for life with strecthmarks and have no kids. To me she physically hasnt changed much I feel her pain and how uncomfortable she is in her own skin and everyone should be comfotable in their own skin right?

Based off of my observations ive seen stretcmarks on african american women more then i have on any other race. Its the cleavage area, sides,hips,thighs inner and out,buttocks and calves. When i see caucasians i more so see spider veins and vericose veins. Even if they are heavy set their skin still show no signs of stretchmarks which makes me wonder ," Is our skin more prone to stretchmarks automatically"? I mean everything about african americans seem to be so different and sensitive. Our skin blemishes and scar up off of anything, the hair HAS to stay moisturized or it goes brittle and is badly damaged, and what everyother saying is out there assuring african american skin is sensitive. Im pretty sure a good amount of women of every race go throug there skin issues , im just saying based off of what i see I think african americans are prone to it. what do you think? If your african american and you want to let us know you skin care regimen hook us up and teach us something we may have been missing . At the end of the day the body is our temple and we must treat it like gold but i also know alot of us neglect our body so lets help one another get on the right track to feel beautiful and comfortable in the skin we're in.

NOW THAT ITS HOT IS BEING NATURAL A YES OR A ...NOT!!

Alot of people are very clueless about natural hair until they become natural themselves. Before i got a perm i use to get my hair straightened with a hot comb. Oh , you couldn't tell me I wasn't cute lol. I don't remember much of my childhood but younger pictures help me see what I looked like. I had very curly hair, pig tails and they were chin length. My sister hair was straight and down her back .Although her hair was straight she still would get it hot combed because it was straight and curly. My mother is black and my dad is Cherokee and his mother and fathers were as well. His mother was mixed black and either red foot or black foot Cherokee Indian and his dad was pure Cherokee black foot. So we have mixture hair. My grandmother hair was curly and my pop pop hair was long and straight. My dad eventually as a kid used s-curl kit to help define his curls. He went to a salon twice in his life and ever sense then he hasn't put any chemicals in his hair except for Donnie curl moisturiser.

My sister and i are 4 yrs apart and were very much proud of our hair. She started doing my hair when she was in the 4th grade my mom had stopped completely, so my sister would do her best with both of our heads. Guess my hair was too thick and kinky curly for her so she permed it. My hair went from my chin down to my collar bone and i swung my hair left and right lol. All the way up until December 22,2010 I was a relaxed hair girl. My hair was knotting up and wasn't as strong as it use to be. I was 23 yrs old and it was time for a change. I wasn't showing my hair much before any way , I was wearing wigs. So I started snipping my hair and my sister WENT CRAZYYYYYYYY . I asked her to do it but she said " I don't want no part of this i cant believe you want to cut your hair. We can cut the knots out not the whole thing." She got the scissors and helped me out.

This natural journey has been a looonggg journey. I never liked short hair so I still haven't showed my hair to anyone. I take pics and keep track of the growth and I'm amazed. Being natural is pretty ok , I'm not going back to perms but I'm not ready to show it yet until it gets down to a length I'm comfortable with. But now that its hot the question is ,"Is being natural a yes or a NOT!" Its a big yesss lol I can get caught in the rain and all my hair will do is curl up if i had it out. If I went swimming I know I'd look good with my curls . My only problem is people with relaxed hair claiming their hair is natural just because there hair is curly or waved up from taking braids out lol W.T.H. is that all about. Posting pics from the beach talking about "My natural curls". Natural is chemical free except for moisturizers and relaxed and textured hair is chemical placed on your hair changing the natural pattern and texture. Texturizers are used to help loosen up curls for those who have really tight kinky curls BUT ITS STILL A CHEMICAL because if you leave it in too long it'll make your hair straight.

Now that I'm natural I realized its a major transition in my life. I'm single so i don't have to worry about the pressure of my boyfriend having to like or dislike my hair which many females are afraid to go through which is understandable. Society has brainwashed alot and it will take some time to do a 360 but trust it will, AND IT IS being done. You know what happens when it get hot out and you don't want to deal with all that long hair. Girls start cutting there hair and showing it off. Some try being natural and short others try permed and short. But what do you think "Now that its hot is being a natural a yes or a NOT?"

The pics that caused controversy on facebook" THE BLACK EYE"

April 23, 2011 10:00pm
I was taking my makeup off, ladies you know how mascara is when you apply the remover.I was wiping the makeup off in circular motion and opened my eye and noticed that I looked like i really had a black eye.  I NEVER HAD A BLACK EYE IN MY LIFE I DONT PLAN ON especially not but the hands of another human being. I took my samsung phone and snapped pics with a 1.3 mega pixel camera and the results were breath taking.  Not only do i not have make up on anymore because i was taking it off but the off preocess really looks REAL.  I thought to myself, "dang i can beleieve females actually force themselves to go through this all for attention from there lame boyfriend who obviously dont respect her enough to keep her hands off her." Its said that men go through abuse too but its not as drastic a women being abused which leads to battery assualts and damn near DEATH OR MURDER. So fellas im not excluding you but the pics above are more common then being a male.
                   So i posted the pics up slowly individually on facebook KNOWING people would comment or notice that it was make up but off the back got my message. Well it actually turned out only 1 person thought it was makeup and everyone else went APE ,and one other dude laughed at me saying that i looked like rhianna. After my phone started ringing i knew i had to post the grand finale the main reason for the pics because people were actually starting to be concerened. Some where mad told me not to do it again its not funny , WHICH OBVIOUSLY IM AWARE OF AND DIDNT POST AS A JOKE. I posted it  because the idea popped in my head and i went with the flow and im glad that i did. Tuesday morning came and on the maury show they were talking about women being abused and i was SHOCKED!! Its like i did this message at the right time which kind of scared me but i understand that sometimes idea's are the best products and messages no matter how much you feel discouraged to do it.  So all in all im excited i did it i feel like i can be apart of something major and that my pic was more deep then most pics that are posetd on line with bruises on the faces and busted lips. I didnt even go to that extreme but just to think taking off mascara caused the MOST REALIST LOOKING BLACK EYE !!!  and im glad to get peoples attention and spread the awareness.  :)